i’ve been thinking about the difference between the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. the résumé virtues are the ones you list on your résumé, the skills that you bring to the job market and that contribute to external success. the eulogy virtues are deeper. they’re the virtues that get talked about at your funeral, the ones that exist at the core of your being — whether you are kind, brave, honest or faithful; what kind of relationships you formed.
most of us would say that the eulogy virtues are more important than the résumé virtues, but i confess that for long stretches of my life i’ve spent more time thinking about the latter than the former. our education system is certainly oriented around the résumé virtues more than the eulogy ones. public conversation is, too — the self-help tips in magazines, the nonfiction bestsellers. most of us have clearer strategies for how to achieve career success than we do for how to develop a profound character.
photo: iphone | austin, tx
words: david brooks | selection from “the road to character”
this post is a little late, but here’s what i read during the month of march. i liked them all but “a field guide to getting lost” was by far my favorite. i checked this one out from the library, and am now determined to get my own copy so that i can highlight, underline, and mark it up as much as i want. there were so many beautiful lines and insights…i’d definitely recommend it to anyone looking for one of those books that shows you the world in a beautiful new light. i can’t wait to check out her other books, her intelligence is palpable.
a field guide to getting lost by rebecca solnit:
crazy love by francis chan: this one was good, the author’s way of writing/speaking kind of annoyed me at times, but the book definitely caused me to have some revelations. if you’re feeling in a rut spiritually, then it might offer some inspirations.
may cause miracles by gabrielle bernstein: this book was so cheesy. but i loved it. it’s not really about any specific religion or spirituality, but it helped my spiritual life so much. it focuses a lot on the ego, and letting go of jealousies or selfish ambitions. it also focuses on surrendering to your higher power and really trusting that you’ll be taken care of. being the control freak that i am, this was a good exercise for me. I hope to continue to use some of the exercises, meditations, and prayers that were in this book.
the book of ruth by jane hamilton: the only way i can describe this book is beautifully tragic, which might sound like a cliche. but if you read it…you’ll know.
it’s spring here in texas. today it’s foggy and gray, and the wildflowers are in full bloom. it’s become my favorite time of year in this state. the blues, oranges, yellows, and pinks of spring make up for the lackluster color in the fall. it’s beautiful. hope you have a relaxing weekend, and if you have any book suggestions please leave a comment below!